Advice columnist to woman pushed into taking morning-after pill: ‘Get on with your life’
LONDON, February 18, 2014 (LifeSiteNews.com) – British advice columnist Jane O’Gorman offered little comfort to a woman who wrote in to the Daily Star to share a horror story about her boyfriend of five years who pushed her into take the “morning after pill” despite her anguished protests. The boyfriend had agreed to try for a baby, but then had second thoughts.
One might expect O’Gorman to have expressed compassion for a woman whose lover turned on her so cruelly, but the writer was pragmatic, even callous in her reply. She suggested the woman “accept that you and he are no longer an item,” and “back off and get on with your life without him.”
“I suspect that he wasn’t really listening or taking you seriously when you talked about coming off the contraceptive pill and starting a family,” O’Gorman explained. “Yet he was pulled up short the morning after your unprotected sex with an overwhelming terror of becoming a dad.”
“Sadly, you and he simply weren’t on the same page,” added O’Gorman.
The anonymous woman had written in her letter to O’Gorman that in December she had suggested the idea of going off her contraceptive pill and trying to have a baby. “We had unprotected sex for the first time and it felt wonderful. Yet the next morning he was in a foul mood. He started shouting that I had tricked him into it and that he wasn’t ready to be a dad,” she wrote.
After that, the woman recounted, “He marched me to my GP for emergency contraception, thrust a bottle of water into my hand and growled: ‘Swallow!’”
“I was sobbing so hard that I struggled to get the pill down,” she wrote. “He and I haven’t had sex from that day to this as he now claims that he can’t trust me. He’s also seeing an ex-colleague of his and I don’t know where I stand.”
O’Gorman admonished the woman not to allow her boyfriend’s abusive behavior to “bring you down,” and to “start to accept that this is the beginning of the next stage of your story.”
While O’Gorman’s response may seem callous, it may also reflect the fact that as the so-called “morning after pill” and other abortifacients have become easier to access, abuses like this one have increasingly become the norm.
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“Sadly, what this poor woman went through is all too common,” Dr. Brian Clowes, director of research and education at Human Life International told LifeSiteNews. “With Plan B being sold over the counter, we can expect more of these types of stories. If you look at the well-documented history of violence carried out by abortion supporters, there are many instances of men spiking their girlfriend's drinks, or even food, with all kinds of abortifacients. And there are more than a hundred instances of men even killing their girlfriends because they refuse to have an abortion.”
One recent story out of Florida saw a 29-year-old man sentenced to nearly 14 years in prison after slipping his pregnant girlfriend the abortion drug misoprostol, disguised as an antibiotic. Another 26-year-old man in Wales was reported to police and slapped with a restraining order after trying to get an abortion pill at his local doctor’s office and telling a nurse he planned to give it to his girlfriend without her knowledge or consent.
In an undercover sting operation, actors working for Students for Life of America caught pharmacy employees on tape agreeing to sell Plan B to a 33-year-old man who wanted to use it to conceal the evidence that he had been sexually abusing a 15-year-old girl. In at least one pharmacy, the man openly stated that he planned to “slip it in her drink” against her wishes, and an employee suggested ways to carry out his plan.
Because Plan B is marketed as “emergency contraception,” many users, even those who consider themselves pro-life, do not realize it can cause early abortion. But Dr. James Trussell, a senior fellow at the pro-abortion Guttmacher Institute and a board member of NARAL Pro-Choice America, co-wrote a report earlier this year saying that “women must know” that emergency contraceptives “may at times inhibit implantation of a fertilized egg in the endometrium.”
In Britain, the morning-after-pill is available over-the-counter at pharmacies and offered free of charge at government-run doctors’ offices. In the U.S., morning-after-pill “Plan B” was made available over-the-counter to all ages in June and, under the rules of ObamaCare, must be covered co-pay-free by all private insurance plans.
The FDA has defended its loosened restrictions, claiming in a statement announcing the changes that, “Over-the-counter access to emergency contraceptive products has the potential to further decrease the rate of unintended pregnancies in the United States.”
But the facts seem to disagree, as multiple studies have shown that the pill actually does more harm than good, especially among younger women who may be more willing to engage in risky sexual behavior because the drug is available to them.
Even Planned Parenthood’s senior medical director has publicly admitted that the results of the drug’s widespread availability has “disappointed” the group, as “the unintended pregnancy rate hasn’t changed at all.”
Ultimately, said Clowes, “the only people ‘empowered’ by abortion and abortion-inducing drugs are the irresponsible men who now have these tools at their disposal to hurt women and kill their unborn children.”
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