TORONTO, Ontario, May 1, 2012 (LifeSiteNews.com) – A so-called sexpert who believes that masturbation is the “cornerstone of sexual health” and that sexuality is defined simply by pleasure told the Toronto Star last week that sex education in schools needs to become more graphic and explicit if it is to be relevant to today’s generation of kids.
“Teenagers need to know what pleasure looks and sounds like — pleasurable moaning, asking for more — in order to be sure that a partner is providing enthusiastic consent to sex,” said Cory Silverberg, a sex educator from Toronto to the Star’s Ann Douglas.
Silverberg suggested that conversations about pornography should become part of an updated sex ed curriculum: not to warn children of the dangers, backed by research, that are inherent in the use of pornography, but to make children aware of the “stereotypical views about how men and women should interact sexually.”
“They also need help understanding that female pleasure matters, too — not an easy concept to sell in a culture that’s encouraged teen girls to see fellatio as way to avoid pregnancy and win popularity,” he said, as paraphrased by Douglas.
Silverberg would like to see more parents talking to their teens about the language of sexual pleasure so that the teens will be able to interpret the “pleasurable moaning” of an intoxicated or passed out sexual partner as a sign of sexual consent.
“Can you really speak up for yourself if you’ve had so much to drink you’re completely passive or passed out, for instance? People need to be sure that their partners are actually saying yes,” is how Douglas paraphrased Silverberg’s position.
Silverberg is the same “sexpert” who is is about to publish a children’s book that portrays the dozens of alternative methods that can be used to create a new human life (about 30 according to the author). The author intends that his “book for kids about sex,” aimed at pre-schools through to 8-years-olds, will also be accompanied by a teacher’s resource to assist its implementation in a school setting.
In discussing the book, Silverberg disparages traditional stories that tell what he calls a “nice story (mommy + daddy + intercourse = you!)” adding, “more and more of us are acknowledging the help we get to bring children into our lives. That help might be a doctor, fertility clinic, adoption or foster agency; it might be a turkey baster and a friend; it might be a sperm donor or a surrogate.”