Sarah Kuntz

My nephew Kaleb: putting a human face to our national shame

Sarah Kuntz
By Sarah Kuntz

December 14, 2012 (Unmaskingchoice.ca) - There’s something so indescribably heartrending about holding a lifeless baby, and even now I cannot begin to wrap my mind around how I felt after being handed the tiny body of my nephew Kaleb. He was swaddled up tightly in a blue knitted blanket and as I cradled him I naturally began to rock him slowly back and forth. He was so still, so heavy, and, “Oh God, he’s supposed to be breathing. Why isn’t he breathing?”

I will never forget that day nearly three months ago, and I will never forget the look of agony in my sister’s eyes as I sat there in that hospital room holding her firstborn son. It was like a nightmare, and I kept trying to make sense of what was happening. I remember thinking, “Babies are not supposed to be stillborn ... what could have happened? He looks like he’s sleeping … this is so wrong.”

“His little hands are so cold … but they are so perfect. Wake up, Kaleb… why won’t you wake up?”

As I sit here trying to sort through my thoughts and emotions, things become more difficult when I begin to consider how, in Canada, Kaleb’s little life was is not respected enough, nor valued enough, to be considered a life. Kaleb did not “completely proceed, in a living state, from the body of his mother,” therefore, according to the Criminal Code of Canada, his life was not a life, nor was he considered valuable enough to be referred to as a human being and all that that implies. Under Canadian law Kaleb never lived, and thus, he was never entitled to the rights that so many of us take for granted.

The Canadian Charter of Rights and Freedoms states that, “Every individual is equal before and under the law and has the right to equal protection and equal benefit of the law without discrimination and, in particular, without discrimination based on race, national or ethnic origin, colour, religion, sex, age or mental or physical disability.”

I keep running over the term, “ … in a living state …” in my mind as I consider the implications of our Criminal Code. During the final hours of Kaleb’s life something went drastically wrong. Although the doctors aren’t able to definitively piece together what caused Kaleb to descend from “a living state” into a lifeless state, one thing is clear – twelve hours before his birth Kaleb was most assuredly living.

This fact cannot be either disputed or denied. All the things that are used to measure and reassure us that life is indeed in existence were present. His little heart was beating soundly, he was moving and his movements were being distinctly felt, and the scans reassured my sister that her son was indeed alive. In fact, these measurable signs of life are already distinctly present in the first month after fertilization when the baby’s heart begins to beat, and from the very beginning as cells begin to rapidly divide from the moment of conception. These measurable signs of life are used by medical practitioners to reassure every mother that her child is in a “living state,” and they are present from the very start. In Kaleb’s case some unknown factor caused him to descend from a “living state” into a lifeless one, and his heart stopped beating somewhere between noon and midnight on September 16th, 2012. He died before he had a chance to “proceed from the body of his mother,” however it is very clear that he was measurably and notably alive before his heart stopped beating. Not even the Criminal Code of Canada denies that fact, but it staunchly denies his intrinsic worth and humanity.

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Kaleb was not considered to be a person under Canadian law, and neither are the countless other children who are born still and without a heart beat every year in our country. There is something very wrong with a law that defines personhood as, essentially, a change of location. I fail to understand how one trip five inches down a birth canal can change someone from being a non-person with no rights, to a person who is entitled to the indisputable rights every other living, flesh and blood Canadian possesses.

That’s a tough pill to swallow for the mothers and fathers of children like Kaleb - a child who was so desperately wanted, so completely loved, and so indisputably alive.

However, this is also true of another group of pre-born individuals – the child who is so desperately unwanted, so completely unloved, yet still so indisputably alive. The aborted pre-born have no rights, but deeper and more essentially still, no protection. Kaleb had the safety and protection of a mother and father who looked forward to his coming with anticipation, and who wept with sorrow when his heart stopped beating. What about the thousands of living, pre-born persons without protection who are discarded by their parents and mercilessly ripped to pieces to the tune of a suction machine in the sterile environments of our hospitals and abortion clinics? Who is going to raise the alarm and speak out on their behalf?

I write this to honor the memory of my nephew, Kaleb, as well as the memory of over 100, 000 Canadian pre-born children who die each year without a voice and without the legal identity of human person. This article reprinted with permission from Unmaskingchoice.ca

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Cardinal Gerhard Ludwig Müller, prefect of the Vatican's Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith
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Vatican pressing forward with reform of US feminist nuns: Cardinal Müller

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Cardinal Gerhard Ludwig Müller, prefect of the Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith, says the Vatican is pressing forward with plans to reform the U.S.-based Leadership Conference of Women Religious (LCWR).

In an interview published in the Vatican newspaper L’Osservatore Romano, the cardinal said that the reform of the LCWR, which was undertaken after an assessment of the group found serious doctrinal problems, will be carried out with the goal of helping them "rediscover their identity.”

“Congregations have no more vocations and risk dying out," Müller said. "We have first of all tried to reduce hostility and tensions, partly thanks to Bishop Sartain whom we sent to negotiate with them; he is a very gentle man. We wish to stress that we are not misogynists, we are not women gobblers! Of course we have a different concept of religious life but we hope to help them rediscover their identity.”

Moreover, the cardinal said that problems specific to the LCWR are not a reflection of all the women religious in the US.

"We need to bear in mind that they do not represent all US nuns, but just a group of nuns who form part of an association,” Müller said.

“We have received many distressed letters from other nuns belonging to the same congregations, who are suffering a great deal because of the direction in which the LCWR is steering their mission.”

Cardinal Müller's remarks confirmed the assertion he and the Holy See’s delegate to the LCWR, Archbishop Peter Sartain of Seattle, made in an address to LCWR officials in Rome on April 30, that the theological drift the feminist nuns are taking constitutes a radical departure from the foundational theological concepts of Catholicism.

The Holy See “believes that the charismatic vitality of religious life can only flourish within the ecclesial faith of the Church,” Müller said in the address.

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“The LCWR, as a canonical entity dependent on the Holy See, has a profound obligation to the promotion of that faith as the essential foundation of religious life. Canonical status and ecclesial vision go hand-in-hand, and at this phase of the implementation of the Doctrinal Assessment, we are looking for a clearer expression of that ecclesial vision and more substantive signs of collaboration,” he stated.

The LCWR has openly defied the mandate of reform intended to bring their organization into line with basic Catholic doctrine on the nature of God, the Church, and sexual morality.

Among the CDF’s directives, to which LCWR has strenuously objected, is the requirement that “speakers and presenters at major programs” be approved by Archbishop Sartain. This, Müller has explained, was decided in order to “avoid difficult and embarrassing situations wherein speakers use an LCWR forum to advance positions at odds with the teaching of the Church.”

The LCWR has invited speakers to their Annual Assembly such as New Age guru Barbara Marx Hubbard, and Sr. Laurie Brink, who is particularly noted for flagrantly denying the Divinity of Christ and telling the sisters that to maintain their “prophetic” place in society they need to “go beyond” the Church and even “go beyond Jesus.”

In one of the first public statements of his pontificate, Pope Francis affirmed that the investigation and reform of the LCWR must continue.

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Birth mothers: real heroes of the pro-life movement

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What does it mean to be brave? Is it the doctor who dedicates himself to improving the health of a third-world nation? Is it the woman who faces her third round of chemotherapy to fight the progression of cancer? Is it the teacher who forgoes the comforts of a suburban school to reach minorities in the inner city? All of these are examples of bravery demonstrated in exceedingly challenging circumstances. And our society longs for stories of bravery to inspire us and fill us with hope.

As someone who works day in and day out with those on the front lines of helping rescue babies from abortion, I’m no stranger to stories of bravery. I see courage every day in the eyes of the men and women who sacrifice their time and energy to help women facing unplanned pregnancies. I see it every time a young mom — despite being pressured by her parents or significant other to get an abortion — chooses LIFE. And perhaps more profoundly than in any other situation, I see it when an expectant mom with no relational support, job, or income chooses to place her baby for adoption rather than abort her son or daughter.

This was Nicky’s situation.

When Nicky found herself pregnant with her boyfriend’s child, her life was already in shambles. During her 26 years, Nicky had already given birth to and surrendered sole custody of a little girl, committed several felonies, lived in her car, lost several jobs, and barely subsisted on minimum wage. So when she met up with an old boyfriend, Brandon, Nicky believed she was being given a second chance at happiness. “Our first year together was beautiful. We were getting to know each other and deciding if we would stay together forever.” Unfortunately, a positive pregnancy test result changed everything.

“When I told him I was pregnant, Brandon sat down on the bed, looked me in the eyes, and told me to ‘get an abortion’.” Nicky says those three little words changed everything for her. “I became depressed living with someone who wanted his child ‘dealt with.’”  Like thousands of women every day, Nicky began searching online for information on abortion, hoping her boyfriend would eventually change his mind. Through our strategic marketing methods, Online for Life was able to guide Nicky to a life-affirming pregnancy center where she received grace-filled counsel. “The woman I sat with was beyond wonderful. She helped me to just breathe and ask God what to do….And so I did.”

Nicky left the pregnancy center that day with a new resolve to choose life for her child, even though she still wasn’t sure how she’d financially support a child. “I was alone with just $10 in my pocket…and without any type of plan for what I was going to do.” So Nicky relied on the support of the staff she met at the life-affirming pregnancy center. With their help and through a chain of fortunate events, Nicky was put in contact with the couple who would eventually become her daughter’s adoptive parents.

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After meeting this couple face to face and coming to terms with her own desperate situation, Nicky conceded that the best thing for her unborn child would be to place her in someone else’s loving home. She told Brandon about her plans and he agreed that adoption would give their child the best chance at a happy and secure future. He even returned home to help Nicky prepare for the birth of their child. “The weeks leading up to my delivery were filled with a mixture of laughter, tears, protectiveness and sadness,” Nicky recalls. But one sentiment continued to be shared with her. “Brave…so brave.” That’s what everyone from the life-affirming pregnancy center to the adoption agency to the birthing center kept calling Nicky. “The nurses kept coming up to me and telling me they were honored to care for and treat someone like me.” After several weeks of preparation, Nicky finally gave birth to a healthy baby girl, and she made the dreams of a couple from the other side of the country come true.

Nicky’s adoption story continues to be riddled with a strange combination of pain and joy. “I cry every day, but I know my baby, who came out of a very bad time, ended up being loved by people from across the country.” When asked what message she’d like to share with the world about her decision to give up her child for adoption, Nicky responds, The voice of the mother who gives up a baby for adoption isn’t heard. We need to change that.”

To learn more about Online for Life and how we’re helping to make stories like Nicky and her daughter’s story a possibility, please visit OnlineforLife.org.

Author, speaker, and business leader Brian Fisher is the President and Co-Founder of Online for Life, a transparent, metric-oriented, compassion-driven nonprofit organization dedicated to helping rescue babies and their families from abortion through technology and grace.

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New York farmers stop hosting weddings after $13,000 fine for declining lesbian ceremony

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New York farmers Robert and Cynthia Gifford, who were ordered last week to pay $13,000 for not hosting a same-sex "wedding," say they are closing that part of their operation.

"Going forward, the Giffords have decided to no longer host any wedding ceremonies on their farm, other than the ones already under contract," said Alliance Defending Freedom (ADF) lawyer James Trainor. ADF represented the Giffords in their legal fight against New York's non-discrimination law.

Last week, the Giffords were ordered to pay a $10,000 fine to the state of New York and $3,000 in damages to a lesbian couple, Jennifer McCarthy and Melisa Erwin, who approached them in 2012 about hosting their "wedding." The Giffords, who are Roman Catholic, said their religious convictions would not let them host the ceremony, but that McCarthy and Erwin could hold their reception on their property.

Unbeknownst to the Giffords, the lesbian couple recorded the two-to-three minute conversation. After declining to hold the reception on the Giffords' farm, on which they live and rent property, the lesbian couple decided to make a formal complaint to the state's Division of Human Rights.

Eventually, Judge Migdalia Pares ruled that the Giffords' farm, Liberty Ridge Farm, constitutes a public accommodation because space is rented on the grounds and fees are collected from the public. The Giffords argued that because they live on the property with their children, they should be exempt from the state law, but Pares said that this does not mean their business is private.

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Trainor told TheBlaze that the Giffords' decision to end wedding ceremonies at Liberty Ridge “will hurt their business in the short run," but that was preferable to violating their religious beliefs.

“The Giffords serve all people with respect and care. They have hired homosexual employees and have hosted events for same-sex couples,” he said.

However, "since the state of New York has essentially compelled them to do all ceremonies or none at all, they have chosen the latter in order to stay true to their religious convictions," Trainor explained to LifeSiteNews. "No American should be forced by the government to choose between their livelihood and their faith, but that’s exactly the choice the state of New York has forced upon the Giffords."

"They will continue to host wedding receptions," said Trainor.

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