Jill Stanek


‘I still feel as if my baby is inside me’: tragic note from 15-year-old pressured to abort by mom

Jill Stanek

On March 20, 2007, I published a touching email I received from reader Bethany about her miscarried baby, who she named Blessing. Bethany included photos.

With Bethany’s permission, I posted her note and pictures. Not only did that note lead to a lasting friendship between Bethany and myself, she also went on to moderate this blog for several years and many of you know and love her.

In honor of Infant and Pregnancy Loss Awareness Day today, Bethany mentioned that post on her Facebook page. She wrote:

This post about Blessing somehow became so popular that it has been the number one post on Jill’s blog, for years… and if you type “‘miscarriage” in google images, my baby’s picture is the first that shows up.

As a result, I continually get emails from women all over the world who have had miscarriage, and these pictures have helped provide them with closure. (This spurred me to write a book too).

Many of the comments Bethany receives on her post to this day are thankful. Sometimes moms just need to talk. And every now and then one of the notes is so sad, like this one that was posted on October 13. I’m breaking it up into paragraphs for easier reading….

Hi Bethany. I am 15 years old turning 16 soon. And I jus had an abortion last week Saturday, I was at least 6 weeks and 2 days pregnant. I really wanted to keep my baby because I had such a connection with it even b4 I new for sure that yes I was really pregnant. i didn’t get morning sickness or anything. I was jus going to bed early and waking up everyday at around 4 in the morning due to my baby’s movement.

Even though my boyfriend and I both wanted our baby our mothers thought otherwise . His mother made my mom change her mind and so my mom took me to get the procedure 3days later. My mom has gotten an abortion b4 when she was 19. And my boyfriend’s mother has gotten plenty. Thats why my mom’s telling me i will forget 1 day. But That night b4 my baby was taken away from me I sang to it all night like I used to and told it how much I loved them and how sorry I was.

Bethany, I’m the most sensative and emotional person ever I believe. Ever since last week I have been crying all day everyday at the thought of my inocent baby being gone. I think about my baby and how happy I would be if I could jus feel it’s movement inside me when I sing or rub my belly. And every night i still wake up at 4 in the morning and cry because i have gotten so used to waking up to a kick. Honestly I wish I would have seen your pictures before my procedure so I could show my mother what her grandchild looks like at 6 weeks. I bet she would have changed her mind and let me keep my baby. I’m very mature for my age and has been taking care of babies all my life. I jus dont have money to give my own baby everything it may want. Jus my care, love and affection.

I’m not sure if its my mind playing tricks on me but I still feel as if my baby is still inside me sometimes . I guess I will find out and let you know when I go back to the doctor on the 29th . I wish I had my ultrasound picture of my beautiful little black dot.

Decisions last a lifetime don’t ever get an abortion you guys. No matter how old u r a baby is still a blessing. and I get teary-eyed everytime i see someone with a baby or pregnant with 1. The three stretch marks I have will be all i have left. And when I become of age I may get a tattoo around it. Bottom line is I feel bad for all who miscarried their baby and the loss of my own Miracle.
RIP baby, I’m sorry and I do love you. I hope to see you one day. I know I would do anything to have my baby with me right now or at least feel it kick one last time.

Abortion is such a tragedy!

My thought is the baby was much older than 6 weeks, because this young mom has stretch marks and felt her baby kick…

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Pro-life billboard towers over Planned Parenthood – for one day

Jill Stanek

Jackson Right to Life, in Michigan, followed all the rules when renting billboard space next to the Jackson Planned Parenthood.

For one glorious day a pro-life billboard towered over Planned Parenthood’s pathetic little abortion feeder with the simple but powerful message, “Choose Life = No Regrets.”

There was only one problem: The billboard was on Planned Parenthood’s property. Adams Outdoor Advertising had leased the billboard space but forgotten about Planned Parenthood’s addendum forbidding any pro-life messaging.

Click "like" if you are PRO-LIFE!

So just as quickly as the billboard went up, on June 9, it came down the next day. Adams is offering Jackson RTL other locations, and on the advice of attorneys Jackson RTL is accepting Adams’ offer and moving on.

But the snafu was all worth it for the amazing photo op, eh?

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Planned Parenthood CEO’s annual salary now exceeds $500,000

Jill Stanek

Planned Parenthood CEO Cecile Richards 2012-13 salary now exceeds $500k
According to Planned Parenthood Federation of America’s 2012 IRS Form 990, CEO Cecile Richards made over one-half million dollars – $523,616, to be exact – for the fiscal year ending on June 30, 2013.

That’s a lot of money to pay the CEO of a nonprofit organization, particularly one that claims to cater to low-income women.

“Planned Parenthood works to make health care accessible and affordable,” boasts Planned Parenthood

Really? How much more affordable would Planned Parenthood’s services be were not its corporate bosses and affiliate CEOs making big bucks? For that 2012 reporting period, PPFA’s 12-member executive team tallied a combined income of $3.87 million.

When questioned by The Daily Caller in October 2012 about what was thought at the time to be an “almost $400,000 salary,” Richards responded, “None of my salary is paid for by the federal government.” 

But if “[n]early half of Planned Parenthood patients rely on Medicaid coverage,” as Planned Parenthood states, does Richards really think she’d be making the same coin were government funding – to the tune of $540.6 million in FY 2012-13 – removed from Planned Parenthood’s total revenue of $1.210 billion?

And actually, The Daily Caller was well over $100,000 off on Richards’ salary.

Turns out Richards made $583,323 during Fiscal Year 2011 (July 1, 2011 to June 30, 2012). This represented a whopping 39% pay increase from the year before that, when she “only” made $420,153.

Cecile Richards campaigns Barack ObamaSo, actually, Richards’ 2012 salary of $523,616 represented a 10% pay cut.

But this was because she took time off from Planned Parenthood to campaign for President Obama’s reelection – which paid off for Planned Parenthood handsomely via windfall income via Obamacare and other government funding streams, only kept flowing by Obama and other pro-abortion politicians.

This sort of financial cushion then frees up Planned Parenthood to raise and spend money to elect pro-abortion candidates, who then return the favor.

See how the circle of loot works?

And where are the liberals – the Occupy Wall Street types – who supposedly despise such top-heavy income? They oppose Big Oil, Big Pharma, and Big Finance. But Big Abortion? Not on your life, or rather, not on the lives of innocent little babies.

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South by Southwest: Pro-life laws eradicating abortion clinics

Jill Stanek

There is a mesmerizing time-lapse video at the Abraham Lincoln Museum in Springfield, Illinois, that in four minutes shows the North’s four-year takeover of the South during the Civil War (screen shots above – view a video clip here).

I was reminded of that video when viewing this GIF from Planned Parenthood. Click on the image to launch…

Planned Parenthood 5-1-14-Abortion-Disappearing-In-South-Map

The correlation between slavery and abortion makes it poignant that legal abortion is first being wiped out in the South, although the area also encompasses some of the Southwest, including Texas and Oklahoma….

Headlines: Abortion disappearing in the South

While many different types of pro-life laws are being enacted, such as late-term abortion bans, waiting periods, ultrasound requirements, and parental involvement, those having the greatest impact are what the abortion industry calls “Targeted Regulation of Abortion Provider (TRAP) laws” – abortion clinic regulations and requirements that abortionists have hospital admitting privileges.

The sudden proliferation of “TRAP” laws most certainly can be tied to the discovery in 2010 of late-term abortionist Kermit Gosnell’s House of Horrors and Gosnell’s subsequent conviction in 2013 of first degree murder in the deaths of three abortion surviving infants and involuntary manslaughter of a patient.

Whether the Gosnell case emboldened pro-life politicians, or frightened them into trying to avert the discovery of another Gosnell in their state, it doesn’t matter.

The result is both a physical and political win, physical in that these laws save the lives of children and mothers, and political in that they expose the abortion industry as medically substandard.

The Associated Press describes the toll on the abortion industry in the South/Southwest:

The [admitting privileges] requirements are already in effect in Texas and Tennessee….

If the law there is upheld, Mississippi’s lone abortion clinic would have to close….

After judges allowed Texas’ privileges law to take effect earlier this year, 19 of 33 abortion clinics closed….

In Alabama, operators of three of five abortion clinics testified last week during a trial challenging the law that they use out-of-town doctors who wouldn’t be able to admit patients to local hospitals. They said they’d have to close….

In Louisiana, opponents said the Louisiana law would close three of the state’s five abortion clinics….

Of course, states in many other areas of the country are enacting pro-life legislation, but there is a concentration in the South/Southwest that “could see an entire region of the nation with little or no access to safe abortion,” warns Planned Parenthood.

Legal sure, but “safe,” no. At least one woman a month dies from a legal abortion in the U.S.

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