July 5, 2013 ( – The wildly feminist publication xoJane has published a remarkable story that, for all the pro-abortion views of its author, ultimately functions as an amazingly powerful argument in favor of the pro-life cause (though I'm sure the author would be appalled at the suggestion).

Caitlyn Beckner writes about how several months after her wedding she took a pregnancy test, fully expecting a negative result, since she was on the nearly (or so the manufacturer claims) “fail proof” method of birth control – the Mirena IUD. Instead, the test came back positive.

At this point, Beckner writes, she and her husband had myriad reasons for why it was the wrong time to have a baby: She had just started a new job, she and her husband only had one car and she rode her bike to work, there was the possibility of birth defects with a pregnancy while on the IUD, etc., etc. 

Accordingly, when Beckner went in to her ObGyn’s office for an ultrasound, she told the technician that she was considering terminating the pregnancy. The technician turned the screen away and began the ultrasound. 

“Then,” writes Beckner, “she chirped, ‘Well, you’re about 24 weeks along, dear, so it’s too late to terminate,’ as she swiveled the ultrasound screen toward me.” 

“I let out some sort of squawk. I saw a baby hand on the screen. I gasped that I felt dizzy,” she says. “Then I passed out on the fu–ing table.” 


But here’s the best part: When Beckner left the office she called her husband and told him (using some rather choice language) that they were having the baby. But when she got home, he met her there, “greeting me in our apartment complex with an ear-to-ear grin and tears of happiness streaming down his face.” 

That’s the first amazing thing. 

The second amazing thing is that despite the fact that Beckner had every intention of aborting her child, she confesses that she now loves her son so much “that sometimes I feel like my heart can’t hold it all in.”

Yes. Everything that she envisioned about an “independent life” with her husband has been turned upside down by the arrival of her son. And yet, she says:  “I love my life. I am happy. My son is an amazing little creature and I take great joy in watching him grow a little more and learn a little more every day.” 

Abortion activists oppose just about any restrictions at all on abortion, alleging that making abortion more difficult to obtain will lead to any variety of horrible consequences: Women will be killed in droves by brutal back-alley abortionists, or will be “forced” to give birth a baby they don’t want, won’t love, and that will ruin their marriages and their careers, etc. 

Pro-life activists point out in turn that statistics about back-alley abortions before abortion legalization were wildly inflated to the point of being made up out of the top of the heads of leaders in the abortion movement (as they have candidly admitted).  Instead, they say, the more likely result of restricting abortion is simply that more men and women will be spared the heartache and suffering that follows abortion, and will be given the chance to experience the joy of meeting and falling in love with their child.

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The fact is, legal abortion poisons the water from the get-go, silently spreading its nefarious influence through the whole experience of pregnancy and parenthood. From the first it conditions parents to view the unborn child as an antagonist, rather than a gift: as an inconvenience only to be welcomed when all the stars are properly aligned, when circumstances meet all of their subjective, and too-often arbitrary standards. It conditions them to respond to news of pregnancy not with hope, but with fear and with agonizing, impossible-to-answer questions about whether the “time is right” and what “choice” to make, despite the fact that the time for choosing has long since passed.

Legal abortion assumes the worst of people. It assumes that women are not strong enough to adapt to the unexpected. It assumes that men are not strong enough to support their partners. And it assumes that they believe murder is an acceptable means to escape from circumstances and their responsibilities. 

On the other hand, when the law restricts abortion and helps provide pregnant women with the support they need to have their babies, it is assuming the best of them. It is assuming that men and women have the strength to welcome and learn to love and provide for their child, even when everything is not exactly as they planned. 

Restricting abortion actually frees men and women from having to make a choice that no human being has the right to, or should ever have to make: the false “choice” of whether an innocent human being should be allowed to live or not, so that we may live as we like. Legal abortion enslaves us to our fears: our fears that we do not have enough love, that the time is not right, that we are not sufficiently “prepared” (whatever exactly that means)…all the uncertainties of the future. Restricting abortion, on the other hand, frees us to rise to a higher standard of love, to be challenged by our circumstances, and to meet them.

Yes, there are some parents who will squander this opportunity. They will choose not to love, even in the face of innocence. But I think that experience shows that they will be a minority, that the heart that is not softened by the face of a newborn child is in the minority. And meanwhile, the vast majority of men and women will be spared the heartache that comes of having chosen death for another human being out of vain fear, or because society told them it was the “reasonable” thing to do. And they will be given the same opportunity that, thanks to abortion laws that prevented her from killing her child, Caitlyn Beckner was given: the opportunity to embrace her child, and to fall in love, to be stretched outside the too-comfortable box of her own plans and careful calculations, and to find the unexpected happiness that came from this experience.