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Advice columnist to woman pushed into taking morning-after pill: ‘Get on with your life’

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LONDON, February 18, 2014 (LifeSiteNews.com) – British advice columnist Jane O’Gorman offered little comfort to a woman who wrote in to the Daily Star to share a horror story about her boyfriend of five years who pushed her into take the “morning after pill” despite her anguished protests. The boyfriend had agreed to try for a baby, but then had second thoughts.

One might expect O’Gorman to have expressed compassion for a woman whose lover turned on her so cruelly, but the writer was pragmatic, even callous in her reply.  She suggested the woman “accept that you and he are no longer an item,” and “back off and get on with your life without him.”

“I suspect that he wasn’t really listening or taking you seriously when you talked about coming off the contraceptive pill and starting a family,” O’Gorman explained.  “Yet he was pulled up short the morning after your unprotected sex with an overwhelming terror of becoming a dad.”

“Sadly, you and he simply weren’t on the same page,” added O’Gorman.

The anonymous woman had written in her letter to O’Gorman that in December she had suggested the idea of going off her contraceptive pill and trying to have a baby. “We had unprotected sex for the first time and it felt wonderful. Yet the next morning he was in a foul mood.  He started shouting that I had tricked him into it and that he wasn’t ready to be a dad,” she wrote.

After that, the woman recounted, “He marched me to my GP for emergency contraception, thrust a bottle of water into my hand and growled: ‘Swallow!’”

“I was sobbing so hard that I struggled to get the pill down,” she wrote. “He and I haven’t had sex from that day to this as he now claims that he can’t trust me.  He’s also seeing an ex-colleague of his and I don’t know where I stand.” 

O’Gorman admonished the woman not to allow her boyfriend’s abusive behavior to “bring you down,” and to “start to accept that this is the beginning of the next stage of your story.”

While O’Gorman’s response may seem callous, it may also reflect the fact that as the so-called “morning after pill” and other abortifacients have become easier to access, abuses like this one have increasingly become the norm.

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“Sadly, what this poor woman went through is all too common,” Dr. Brian Clowes, director of research and education at Human Life International told LifeSiteNews. “With Plan B being sold over the counter, we can expect more of these types of stories. If you look at the well-documented history of violence carried out by abortion supporters, there are many instances of men spiking their girlfriend's drinks, or even food, with all kinds of abortifacients. And there are more than a hundred instances of men even killing their girlfriends because they refuse to have an abortion.”

One recent story out of Florida saw a 29-year-old man sentenced to nearly 14 years in prison after slipping his pregnant girlfriend the abortion drug misoprostol, disguised as an antibiotic.  Another 26-year-old man in Wales was reported to police and slapped with a restraining order after trying to get an abortion pill at his local doctor’s office and telling a nurse he planned to give it to his girlfriend without her knowledge or consent.

In an undercover sting operation, actors working for Students for Life of America caught pharmacy employees on tape agreeing to sell Plan B to a 33-year-old man who wanted to use it to conceal the evidence that he had been sexually abusing a 15-year-old girl.  In at least one pharmacy, the man openly stated that he planned to “slip it in her drink” against her wishes, and an employee suggested ways to carry out his plan.

Because Plan B is marketed as “emergency contraception,” many users, even those who consider themselves pro-life, do not realize it can cause early abortion.  But Dr. James Trussell, a senior fellow at the pro-abortion Guttmacher Institute and a board member of NARAL Pro-Choice America, co-wrote a report earlier this year saying that “women must know” that emergency contraceptives “may at times inhibit implantation of a fertilized egg in the endometrium.”

In Britain, the morning-after-pill is available over-the-counter at pharmacies and offered free of charge at government-run doctors’ offices.  In the U.S., morning-after-pill “Plan B” was made available over-the-counter to all ages in June and, under the rules of ObamaCare, must be covered co-pay-free by all private insurance plans.  

The FDA has defended its loosened restrictions, claiming in a statement announcing the changes that, “Over-the-counter access to emergency contraceptive products has the potential to further decrease the rate of unintended pregnancies in the United States.”

But the facts seem to disagree, as multiple studies have shown that the pill actually does more harm than good, especially among younger women who may be more willing to engage in risky sexual behavior because the drug is available to them. 

Even Planned Parenthood’s senior medical director has publicly admitted that the results of the drug’s widespread availability has “disappointed” the group, as “the unintended pregnancy rate hasn’t changed at all.”

Ultimately, said Clowes, “the only people ‘empowered’ by abortion and abortion-inducing drugs are the irresponsible men who now have these tools at their disposal to hurt women and kill their unborn children.”

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Indiana faces backlash as it becomes 20th state to protect religious liberty

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INDIANAPOLIS, IN, March 27, 2015 (LifeSiteNews.com) – On Thursday, Indiana became the 20th state to prevent the government from forcing people of faith to violate their religious beliefs in business or the public square.

Gov. Mike Pence signed the Religious Freedom Restoration Act (SB 101) into law, saying the freedom of religion is a preeminent American value.

“The Constitution of the United States and the Indiana Constitution both provide strong recognition of the freedom of religion, but today, many people of faith feel their religious liberty is under attack by government action,” Pence said.

Gov. Pence, a possible dark horse candidate for president in 2016, cited court cases brought by religious organizations and employers, including Catholic universities, against the HHS mandate. “One need look no further than the recent litigation concerning the Affordable Care Act. A private business and our own University of Notre Dame had to file lawsuits challenging provisions that required them to offer insurance coverage in violation of their religious views.”

The new law could also prevent Christian business owners from being compelled to bake a cake or take photographs of a same-sex "marriage" ceremony, if doing so violates their faith. In recent years, business owners have seen an increased level of prosecution for denying such services, despite their religious and moral beliefs.

The state's pro-life organization applauded Pence for his stance. "Indiana's pro-life community is grateful to Gov. Mike Pence for signing the Religious Freedom Restoration Act into law,” said Indiana Right to Life's president and CEO Mike Fichter. “This bill will give pro-lifers a necessary legal recourse if they are pressured to support abortion against their deeply-held religious beliefs.”

“RFRA is an important bill to protect the religious freedom of Hoosiers who believe the right to life comes from God, not government,” he said.

The state RFRA is based on the federal bill introduced by Sen. Chuck Schumer, D-NY, and signed into law by President Bill Clinton in 1993. The Supreme Court cited the federal law when it ruled that Hobby Lobby had the right to refuse to fund abortion-inducing drugs, if doing so violated its owners' sincerely held religious beliefs.

In signing the measure – similar to the one Arizona Gov. Jan Brewer vetoed – Pence and the state of Indiana have faced a torrent of venom from opponents of the bill, who claim it grants a “right to discriminate” and raises the spectre of segregation.

"They've basically said, as long as your religion tells you to, it's OK to discriminate against people," said Sarah Warbelow, legal director of the Human Rights Campaign, a national homosexual pressure group.

The Disciples of Christ, a liberal Protestant denomination based in the state capital, has said it will move its 2017 annual convention if the RFRA became state law. The NCAA warned the bill's adoption “might affect future events” in the Hoosier state.

Pence denied such concerns, saying, "This bill is not about discrimination, and if I thought it legalized discrimination in any way I would've vetoed it."

The bill's supporters say that, under the Obama administration, it is Christians who are most likely to suffer discrimination.

"Originally RFRA laws were intended to protect small religious groups from undue burdens on practicing their faith in public life,” said Mark Tooley, president of the Institute on Religion and Democracy. “It was not imagined there would come a day when laws might seek to jail or financially destroy nuns, rabbis or Christian camp counselors who prefer to abstain from the next wave of sexual and gender experimentation. And there's always a next wave.”

The bill's supporters note that it does not end the government's right to coerce people of faith into violating their conscience in every situation. However, it requires that doing so has to serve a compelling government interest and the government must use the least restrictive means possible. “There will be times when a state or federal government can show it has a compelling reason for burdening religious expression – to ensure public safety, for instance,” said Sarah Torre, an expert at the Heritage Foundation. “But Religious Freedom Restoration Acts set a high bar for the government to meet in order to restrict religious freedom.”

Restricting the ability of government to interfere in people's private decisions, especially their religious decisions, is the very purpose of the Constitution, its supporters say.

"Religious freedom is the cornerstone of all liberty for all people,” Tooley said. “Deny or reduce it, and there are no ultimate limits on the state's power to coerce."

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Since I’ve gotten involved in anti-pornography work, I’ve met countless men who struggle, fight, or have beaten pornography. Each person seems to deal with the guilt and shame that accompanies porn use in a different way—some deny that it’s “all that bad,” others pretend that they could “stop whenever they want,” many insist that “everyone is doing it,” and most, when pressed, admit to a deep sense of self-loathing.

One worry surfaces often in conversation: What do my past or current struggles with pornography say about me as a man? Can I ever move past this and have a meaningful and fulfilling relationship?

I want to address this question just briefly, since I’ve encountered it so many times.

First, however, I’ve written before how I at times dislike the language of “struggling” with pornography or pornography “addiction,” not because they aren’t accurate but because too often they are used as an excuse rather than an explanation. It is true, many do in fact “struggle” with what can legitimately be considered an addiction, but when this language is used to describe an interminable battle with no end (and I’ve met dozens of men for whom this is the case), then I prefer we use terminology like “fighting my porn habit.” A semantic debate, certainly, but one I think is important. We need to stop struggling with porn and start fighting it.

Secondly, pornography does do devastating things to one’s sense of masculinity. We know this. Pornography enslaves men by the millions, perverting their role as protector and defender of the more vulnerable and turning them into sexual cannibals, consuming those they see on-screen to satisfy their sexual appetites.

What often starts as mere curiosity or an accidental encounter can turn into something that invades the mind and twists even the most basic attractions. I’ve met porn users who can’t believe the types of things they want to watch. They haven’t simply been using porn. Porn has actively reshaped them into something they don’t recognize and don’t like. 

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Porn is this generation’s great assault on masculinity and the role of men in society. It is essential that we win this battle for the sake of society’s survival. Contrary to what the gender-bending and family-morphing progressive elites claim, good husbands and good fathers and good church leaders are necessary for a healthy society. But pornography is destroying marriages, creating distant and disconnected fathers, and, metaphoricaclly castrating men, hindering their ability and desire to make a positive difference in the society around us.

So, with this sobering set of facts in mind let’s return to the question: what do pornography struggles, past and present, say about a man?

The proper way to respond is with everything that is good about masculinity. We have to fight pornography as men have fought countless evils throughout the ages. We need to fight pornography to protect women, and wives, and children, and our society at large. This is how pornography threatens society, by castrating men, and turning them from protectors into predators. Rooting out the evil in our own lives allows us to better fulfill the role we are called to perform in the lives of others. Battling our own demons enables us to battle the wider cultural demons. Every day without porn is another bit of virtue built. Virtue is not something you’re born with. Virtues are habits that you build. And one day without porn is the first step towards the virtue of being porn-free.

Many men ask me if men who have had past porn addictions are cut out for being in a relationship or working in the pro-life movement or in other areas where we are called to protect and defend the weak and vulnerable. And the answer to that is an unequivocal yes. Our society needs men who know what it means to fight battles and win. Our society needs men who can say that they fought porn and they beat porn, because their families and their friends were too important to risk. Our society needs men who rose to the challenge that the evils of their generation threw at them, and became better men as the result. And our society needs men who can help their friends and their sons and those around them fight the plague of pornography and free themselves from it, too—and who can understand better and offer encouragement more relevant than someone who has fought and been freed themselves?

So the answer to men is yes. Fight pornography. Beat pornography. And join the ranks of those who support their fellow men and women still fighting. Lend them support and encouragement. We cannot change the fact that porn has left an enormous path of destruction in its wake. But we can change the fact that too many people aren’t fighting it. We can change our own involvement. And we can rise to the challenge and face this threat to masculinity with all that is good about masculinity.

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