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Someone died: healing abortion’s after-effects

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September 25, 2012 (Bound4Life.com) - My sister died. She just turned 18 and it was sudden. No one was prepared for it. When she died, I clung to her lifeless body in the hospital crying, “I’m sorry. I’m sorry. I’m sorry.”  I wasn’t apologizing for anything; it’s just what came out of me in a moment of grief, realizing that someone died. We were less than two years apart. We were best friends from the day she was born.

I read a comment on an abortion video written by a mother who aborted her baby. She wrote the same thing I cried in that cold hospital room holding my dead sister. “I’m sorry. I’m sorry. I’m sorry.” She realized the same thing too: someone died.

That’s the thing with abortion, no matter what the baby is called at the time of the procedure, there will come an inevitable day where the mother will realize that someone died. Grief will come. Every time a baby’s life is taken through abortion a real loss occurs and the response - grief - will come.

When I read the response to the video that was the exact same response I had, it hit me: the grief that follows an abortion is like the grief I experienced, blindfolded. The same miserable numbing pain, but without ever seeing her face or knowing her name. The loss is real and permanent and so is the response of the mother, whether she realizes it yet or not.

Over 54 million aborted babies since Roe v Wade means there are 54 million mothers grieving the loss of a baby they may not even acknowledge yet.

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If you know three women, it is likely you know someone who has had an abortion. According to Planned Parenthood’s website, one in three women has an abortion at some point in her life. There are stages of grief and symptoms of PAS (Post Abortion Syndrome) that describe women you know. Please read these and look on suffering women with compassion.

Our responsibility as pro-life Christians is not to judge or condemn women by the mistakes of their past. Our responsibility is to love.  Think about the following stages and symptoms. If you recall women in your life currently displaying one or all of them, please show them love today. If they reject you, pray for them secretly. Remember, most of them don’t know why they are hurting or displaying behavior associated with grief because they are still blindfolded.

Shock & Denial - Many women who have had abortions suffer from Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome. According to one study, 65% of women who have had an abortion suffer from this. Symptoms include feeling intense fear, helplessness, and loss of control.  I had dreams about my sister’s death for years, and froze one day in class because I had a “flash back” of the freezing hospital room where she died. Women who have had abortions may suffer from nightmares or sudden flashbacks that remind them of their abortions out of nowhere. For many women the onset of symptoms is delayed for several years. This means that even women who seem to have everything together may be in this stage of denial. Ask God to help you love each one you meet.

Pain & Guilt- When the shock and denial has subsided, women tend to internalize their suffering because of the shame associated with releasing it. When my sister died, I didn’t eat for weeks, avoided people and responsibilities, and I took over-the-counter pain pills all day because my heart literally hurt. To cope with their pain and guilt, post-abortive moms may abuse alcohol or drugs. Many even develop eating disorders, and they are more likely to smoke cigarettes.  This means that the skinny drunk girl dabbling in drugs and smoking cigarettes probably doesn’t just ‘love to party,’ she may be masking the pain and guilt that is too heavy for one girl to bear. Ask God to show you His heart for that hurting daughter.

Anger – Whether she realizes that she is grieving or not, a woman who has had an abortion may experience outbursts of anger, exaggerated startle responses, or rage. She may have a short fuse and mood swings. When I was grieving the loss of my sister, I was mad at everyone, especially God and I thought that He was mad at me… why else would He take her from me? If you’ve ever met me, you know that is far from my personality. Grief is powerful. It can make you behave in angry, mean ways you never would under any other circumstance and it can make you feel and respond in ways that are opposite of anything you would usually say or do. This means that maybe the moody, short-fused, angry lady, possibly holding a pro-choice sign, could have a broken heart and she doesn’t even know why yet. Ask God to help you love the angry, hurting women in your life.

My sister’s birthday is this month. I remember her last birthday so well, less than a month before the day she died. I miss her. Tonight I’m praying for blindfolded women, one out of three, who never got to celebrate the first birthday with their aborted baby. When they realize someone died, I pray they’re wrapped in mercy and covered with grace that strengthens them to cry, “I’m sorry. I’m sorry. I’m sorry.”

Psalm 147:3 He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.

Let’s remember that the babies that have been aborted are really gone. Nothing that we say or do can bring them back. The broken mothers remain, and we can do something about that. We can show them the love and compassion the Savior shows us and we can speak LIFE into the dead places of their hearts.

Reprinted with permission from Bound4Life.com

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For Hillary Clinton, abortion access trumps religious liberty

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WASHINGTON, D.C., May 1, 2015 (LifeSiteNews.com) -- For Democratic presidential hopeful Hillary Clinton, apparently abortion trumps religious liberty.

It may have gotten bipartisan support in the House of Representatives last night, but a spokesperson for the Democratic Party's leading presidential candidate says a resolution protecting religious liberty in the District of Columbia "overrule[s] the democratic process" and hurts women.

The vote, which saw three Democrats join the GOP majority and 13 Republicans stand with Democrats, was meant to protect pro-life and religious organizations in the District from the Reproductive Health Non-Discrimination Act (RHNDA).

RHNDA was signed by the mayor of the District of Columbia, Muriel Bowser, in January, and makes it illegal for any employer, including religious and pro-life organizations, to use a person's belief or actions about abortion in employment considerations. It also requires employers to provide abortion coverage.

The resolution now goes to the Senate, where it is expected to fail due to the Senate being on recess. Under existing federal law, the measure has 30 legislative days to be disapproved by Congress and President Obama. If this does not happen, it becomes law.

The 30-day window ends on Saturday. President Obama promised a veto of the resolution on Thursday, even though RHNDA was opposed by former District mayor Vincent Gray. According to Gray, while he "applaud[s] the goals of this legislation," the former mayor believes RHNDA could violate the U.S. Constitution's guarantee of equal treatment under the law.

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The statement by the Clinton campaign left no doubt that she stood with Obama and a majority of Democratic legislators. Spokeswoman Jennifer Palmieri told CNN, "Hillary Clinton has fought for women and families and their right to access the full range of reproductive health care without interference from politicians or employers."

"Hillary will fight to make it easier, not more difficult, for women and families to get ahead and ensure that women are not discriminated against for personal medical decisions."

The remarks come a week after Clinton took criticism for saying that "religious beliefs" critical of "reproductive rights" must "be changed."

“Yes, we've cut the maternal mortality rate in half, but far too many women are still denied critical access to reproductive health,” she told the Women in the World Summit on April 23.

“Rights have to exist in practice, not just on paper," said Clinton in her speech. "Laws have to be backed up with resources, and political will."

“Deep-seated cultural codes, religious beliefs, and structural biases have to be changed,” said the candidate.

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Social conservatives may be funding the destruction of marriage: corporate watchdog

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May 1, 2015 (LifeSiteNews.com) -- With over $55 million in annual revenue, the Human Rights Campaign may be America's most powerful LGBT activist group. And according to a conservative corporate watchdog, that's in part because social conservatives are funding it.

"Conservatives would be surprised to know that many of the dollars they spend every day are helping fund an agenda that seeks to destroy traditional marriage and undermine religious freedoms," said 2nd Vote National Outreach Director Robert Kuykendall. "Even when they purchase a beverage from a company like Coca-cola or Starbucks, their dollar is going to support HRC's liberal agenda to redefine marriage."

Less than 18 months old, 2nd Vote has graded hundreds of corporations on six issues -- corporate welfare, the environment, education, support for the Second Amendment, abortion, and as of two weeks ago, same-sex "marriage." Using their "scoring" system, 2nd Vote ranks corporations on their direct or indirect involvement with these hot-button public policy and cultural issues.

And according to them, some of America's favorite corporations are making the radical HRC agenda possible.

"HRC is the largest LGBT lobbying organization in the United States with reported revenues of over $55 million," Kuykendall told LifeSiteNews. "The redefinition of marriage and the undermining of religious freedom are major components of HRC’s policy agenda. To fund their policy goals, HRC has enlisted the help of many major corporations that we do business with every day to help fund. Over a third of the contributions received by HRC are listed as 'Corporate/Foundation Grants.'" 

Why should conservatives care about corporate donors to HRC? Kuykendall says the organization is both politically influential and publicly deceptive. "Last election cycle, HRC spent around a million dollars on electioneering activities and in support of liberal candidates willing to push their legislative agenda. HRC is responsible for spreading much of the misinformation regarding [Religious Freedom Restoration Act] laws and has also mischaracterized the protections provided by these laws."

"HRC organized a massive grassroots campaign in support of the legal battle to overturn state laws protecting marriage and influence the Supreme Court’s decision in Obergefell v. Hodges," said Kuykendall.

Marriage isn't the only issue on which conservatives may be at odds with HRC's corporate backers. "2nd Vote’s research into other issues such as life, the environment, and the 2nd Amendment shows that many of the companies supporting HRC have taken liberal stands on other issues as well,” he said. “For example, Apple, Citigroup, Microsoft, and Coca-Cola are Platinum Partners, the highest level of HRC’s National Corporate Partners, that have also funded the liberal Center for American Progress [CAP]."

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"Bank of America, Google, Goldman Sachs, Starbucks, PepsiCo, and Morgan Stanley are also HRC Corporate Partners that have funded CAP. Furthermore, all of these companies signed the amicus brief asking the Supreme Court to overturn state marriage laws."

In Indiana, the state's religious liberty law was modified because of corporate pressure led by Tim Cook, Apple's gay CEO. Kuykendall says conservatives should not give up, though he acknowledges that "for too long, conservatives have let liberals and groups like HRC bully companies into not just going along with their agenda, but actively funding and promoting it."

"However, conservatives have also proven their ability to mobilize and use their dollars in support of traditional values as we’ve seen through the fundraising campaigns for the pizza parlor and wedding cake makers who have been attacked by liberals for their beliefs. Conservatives need to turn the tables on the left, and groups like HRC, and motivate companies to stop funding the liberal agenda through the power of their shopping habits."

Only nine companies have ranks of "five" or "four" on 2nd Vote's ranking system, indicating a pro-marriage perspective. They are outnumbered more than 10 to 1 by organizations that support redefining marriage.

Concerned citizens can download the app on 2nd Vote's website. The full list of corporation scores can be found here.

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First graders exposed to book about transgender boy—without parental notification

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KITTERY POINT, ME, May 1, 2015, (LifeSiteNews.com) – Parents at one Maine school are upset that children as young as six were exposed to a book promoting transgender issues, in the name of "acceptance."

Parents were not only not consulted, they were never even notified of their children's exposure to transgenderism.

Horace Mitchell Primary School read the book I Am Jazz to first-grade students. The book is about a boy who identifies as a girl from the age of two, "with a boy's body and a girl's brain." He eventually finds a doctor who tells his parents, "Jazz is transgender."

Parents began to inquire about what was being taught at Horace Mitchell Primary after children came home with questions about their own sex and wondering if they, too, might be transgender.

One mother, upset that teachers would broach the subject of transgenderism with her little boy, said the primary school ignored her complaint. "I feel like my thoughts, feelings and beliefs were completely ignored...My right as a parent to allow or not allow this discussion with my child was taken from me," she told Hannity.com.

"When I spoke with the principal he was very cold about it," the mother continued. "It's amazing how thoughtless the school has been with this whole thing."

Only after Sean Hannity made national inquiries did Horace Mitchell Primary School suggest that teachers should have told parents ahead of time.

Allyn Hutton, the superintendent of the local district, said she supported reading the book but admitted that parents should have been given advance warning about the subject matter. "We have a practice of – if a topic is considered sensitive – parents should be informed. In this situation, that didn't happen," she said. "We understand that toleration is tolerating people of all opinions."

Horace Mitchell Primary School sent an e-mail, after the fact, to concerned parents, including a link to a blog post of the school's guidance counselor, explaining their motivation was "cultivating respect."

"Some may think primary school students are too young to worry about addressing issues surrounding gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender and questioning (LGBTQ) students. Not so, experts say,” the school's guidance counselor wrote. “It’s never too early to begin teaching children about respecting differences."

Homosexual activists say they support the teaching of transgenderism to first-graders, with or without parental notification. "The staff of Mitchell School is...shedding a light on [LGBTQ] issues,” said a column in Gay Star News.

The LGBT puublication goes even further, advocating homosexual propaganda be commonplace in elementary schools across the country. "LGBTQ issues should never be classified as a 'sensitive subject,' [because] there is nothing sensitive about the way we are born. Blonde hair, brown hair, gay, straight or somewhere in-between."

Brian Camenker of MassResistance commented on the infiltration of homosexual propaganda in children's schools. "We deal with parents and teachers a lot, and the idea that teachers would do this is unconscionable. It's like the people that promote this stuff are evil. It's demonic. You can't imagine adults that would do this to other people's children, and do it with such anger, and such vitrol.”

Camenker emphasized that this is “not an isolated incident with just one, rogue teacher. This happens because the whole administrative hierarchy buys into it.”

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“The new generation of educators is very, very frightening,” he said.

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