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Someone died: healing abortion’s after-effects

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By Ellie Saul
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September 25, 2012 (Bound4Life.com) - My sister died. She just turned 18 and it was sudden. No one was prepared for it. When she died, I clung to her lifeless body in the hospital crying, “I’m sorry. I’m sorry. I’m sorry.”  I wasn’t apologizing for anything; it’s just what came out of me in a moment of grief, realizing that someone died. We were less than two years apart. We were best friends from the day she was born.

I read a comment on an abortion video written by a mother who aborted her baby. She wrote the same thing I cried in that cold hospital room holding my dead sister. “I’m sorry. I’m sorry. I’m sorry.” She realized the same thing too: someone died.

That’s the thing with abortion, no matter what the baby is called at the time of the procedure, there will come an inevitable day where the mother will realize that someone died. Grief will come. Every time a baby’s life is taken through abortion a real loss occurs and the response - grief - will come.

When I read the response to the video that was the exact same response I had, it hit me: the grief that follows an abortion is like the grief I experienced, blindfolded. The same miserable numbing pain, but without ever seeing her face or knowing her name. The loss is real and permanent and so is the response of the mother, whether she realizes it yet or not.

Over 54 million aborted babies since Roe v Wade means there are 54 million mothers grieving the loss of a baby they may not even acknowledge yet.

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If you know three women, it is likely you know someone who has had an abortion. According to Planned Parenthood’s website, one in three women has an abortion at some point in her life. There are stages of grief and symptoms of PAS (Post Abortion Syndrome) that describe women you know. Please read these and look on suffering women with compassion.

Our responsibility as pro-life Christians is not to judge or condemn women by the mistakes of their past. Our responsibility is to love.  Think about the following stages and symptoms. If you recall women in your life currently displaying one or all of them, please show them love today. If they reject you, pray for them secretly. Remember, most of them don’t know why they are hurting or displaying behavior associated with grief because they are still blindfolded.

Shock & Denial - Many women who have had abortions suffer from Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome. According to one study, 65% of women who have had an abortion suffer from this. Symptoms include feeling intense fear, helplessness, and loss of control.  I had dreams about my sister’s death for years, and froze one day in class because I had a “flash back” of the freezing hospital room where she died. Women who have had abortions may suffer from nightmares or sudden flashbacks that remind them of their abortions out of nowhere. For many women the onset of symptoms is delayed for several years. This means that even women who seem to have everything together may be in this stage of denial. Ask God to help you love each one you meet.

Pain & Guilt- When the shock and denial has subsided, women tend to internalize their suffering because of the shame associated with releasing it. When my sister died, I didn’t eat for weeks, avoided people and responsibilities, and I took over-the-counter pain pills all day because my heart literally hurt. To cope with their pain and guilt, post-abortive moms may abuse alcohol or drugs. Many even develop eating disorders, and they are more likely to smoke cigarettes.  This means that the skinny drunk girl dabbling in drugs and smoking cigarettes probably doesn’t just ‘love to party,’ she may be masking the pain and guilt that is too heavy for one girl to bear. Ask God to show you His heart for that hurting daughter.

Anger – Whether she realizes that she is grieving or not, a woman who has had an abortion may experience outbursts of anger, exaggerated startle responses, or rage. She may have a short fuse and mood swings. When I was grieving the loss of my sister, I was mad at everyone, especially God and I thought that He was mad at me… why else would He take her from me? If you’ve ever met me, you know that is far from my personality. Grief is powerful. It can make you behave in angry, mean ways you never would under any other circumstance and it can make you feel and respond in ways that are opposite of anything you would usually say or do. This means that maybe the moody, short-fused, angry lady, possibly holding a pro-choice sign, could have a broken heart and she doesn’t even know why yet. Ask God to help you love the angry, hurting women in your life.

My sister’s birthday is this month. I remember her last birthday so well, less than a month before the day she died. I miss her. Tonight I’m praying for blindfolded women, one out of three, who never got to celebrate the first birthday with their aborted baby. When they realize someone died, I pray they’re wrapped in mercy and covered with grace that strengthens them to cry, “I’m sorry. I’m sorry. I’m sorry.”

Psalm 147:3 He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.

Let’s remember that the babies that have been aborted are really gone. Nothing that we say or do can bring them back. The broken mothers remain, and we can do something about that. We can show them the love and compassion the Savior shows us and we can speak LIFE into the dead places of their hearts.

Reprinted with permission from Bound4Life.com

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Pope Francis eases forgiveness of abortion for Jubilee Year of Mercy

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ROME, September 1, 2015 (LifeSiteNews) -- In an announcement today, Pope Francis said that he is enacting an Extraordinary Jubilee of Mercy from December 8, 2015 through November 2016. As part of the Jubilee, the pope has allowed priests to forgive the sin of abortion, which St. John Paul II taught in Evangelium Vitae (paragraph 58) is “murder.”

The statement marks the most extensive remarks on abortion that Pope Francis has made during his pontificate. Rather than downplaying the seriousness of abortion, as some media contend, in the statement the pope encourages the millions of women who have aborted their children to go to confession and seek God’s forgiveness.

In the Catechism, the Church calls abortion a “criminal” practice, and imposes the penalty of excommunication on those who do it -- essentially, removing those who commit abortions from the Church. In the past, typically re-entry into the Church for those who have separated themselves from it by excommunication can only be undertaken by a bishop. However in much of North America priests have already been given standing permission by their bishops to forgive abortion.

Philadelphia Archbishop Charles Chaput explained in an email sent to LifeSiteNews today, “For many years now, parish priests have been given permission to absolve the sin of abortion here in the Archdiocese of Philadelphia.” The Philadelphia archbishop, who will play host to Pope Francis during the pontiff’s visit later this month added, “But the practice has not been common in various other regions of the world.”

“This action in no way diminishes the moral gravity of abortion,” concluded Chaput. “What it does do is make access to sacramental forgiveness easier for anyone who seeks it with a truly penitent heart.”

The pope declared that all priests may forgive the sin of abortion for “those who have procured it and who with contrite heart, seek forgiveness for it.'"

The pope says in his letter that abortion is a “tragedy” wherein “extreme harm” takes place, and calls it “profoundly unjust.”  He admits however, as does the pro-life movement, that it is an “agonizing and painful decision” and many women “believe that they have no other option.”

In order to be forgiven by God of such a serious offence, the pope says the one who has procured the abortion must be made aware of the “gravity of the sin committed” and be truly repentant. They must come, says Francis, with a “contrite heart, seek forgiveness for” the abortion and hoping for “reconciliation with the Father.”

The full statement from the Pope on the matter of abortion follows:

One of the serious problems of our time is clearly the changed relationship with respect to life. A widespread and insensitive mentality has led to the loss of the proper personal and social sensitivity to welcome new life. The tragedy of abortion is experienced by some with a superficial awareness, as if not realizing the extreme harm that such an act entails. Many others, on the other hand, although experiencing this moment as a defeat, believe they they have no other option. I think in particular of all the women who have resorted to abortion. I am well aware of the pressure that has led them to this decision. I know that it is an existential and moral ordeal. I have met so many women who bear in their heart the scar of this agonizing and painful decision. What has happened is profoundly unjust; yet only understanding the truth of it can enable one not to lose hope. The forgiveness of God cannot be denied to one who has repented, especially when that person approaches the Sacrament of Confession with a sincere heart in order to obtain reconciliation with the Father. For this reason too, I have decided, notwithstanding anything to the contrary, to concede to all priests for the Jubilee Year the discretion to absolve of the sin of abortion those who have procured itand who, with contrite heart, seek forgiveness for it. May priests fulfil this great task by expressing words of genuine welcome combined with a reflection that explains the gravity of the sin committed, besides indicating a path of authentic conversion by which to obtain the true and generous forgiveness of the Father who renews all with his presence.

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Surprise, surprise: New suit says gay ‘marriage’ ruling laid ground for legal polygamy

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SALT LAKE CITY, UT, September 1, 2015 (LifeSiteNews) – When "The Pill" was made available to the public in 1964, Christians warned it could lead to promiscuity and disassociation of sex with marriage and children.  They were ridiculed as religious fanatics.

When abortion was made legal throughout all nine months of pregnancy in 1973, Christians warned that it would not save women's lives, but would instead lead to devaluing all human life, especially children's lives. They were dismissed as moral-legislating hate-mongers.

When euthanasia was legalized in Oregon and other states, Christians warned that the non-terminally ill and eventually the mentally handicapped, or simply the unwanted, would be killed in the name of mercy. They were mocked as right-wing crazies.

When sodomy laws in Texas and elsewhere were stricken from the books in 2003, Christians warned that societal approval of that harmful practice would lead to an increase in disease and further perversion. They were ignored and vilified.

When DADT (Don't Ask Don't Tell) rules for the military were reversed, Christians warned that the epidemic of rapes in the armed services would increase, not decrease, and that combat readiness would continue to diminish. They were called bigots, their words "hate speech."

And so on. Recent history is rife with examples of conservatives warning against societal degradation being vilified as "slippery slope" straw man creators, who want only to legislate morality.

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That's how those who warned that the Supreme Court's same-sex "marriage" decision would lead to legalization of any and all kinds of "marriage," such as a man and several wives or vice versa.

And, as in every case cited above, what Christian conservatives warned is exactly what has now happened.

In a U.S. 10th Circuit court filing, reality TV polygamist Kody Brown and his wives point to the U.S. Supreme Court's historic ruling on same-sex marriage to buttress their pro-polygamy case.

Peter LaBarbera, president of Americans for Truth, summarized to LifeSiteNews, "The left's chaotic cultural agenda knows no boundaries. Once 'marriage' could be redefined to accommodate sexual perversion, it would be impossible to stop other perversions from being recognized." 

The American Family Association's Ed Vitagliano told LifeSiteNews, "It has been clear for decades that sexual radicals in America have been targeting the God-ordained institution of marriage for destruction. Toss in a handful of U.S. Supreme Court rulings, beginning in 2003 (Lawrence v. Texas), and ending with this summer's debacle (Obergefell v. Hodges), and we are on the verge of seeing the secularists succeed." 

The AFA executive vice president concluded to LifeSiteNews, "We have no doubt that the polygamists will be next to step into the federal courts."

Indeed. Brown and his four wives, Meri, Janelle, Christine, and Robyn, have asked the court to uphold a judge's ruling striking down part of Utah's law against polygamy. To prove their case, they cite precedents involving same-sex marriage (United States v. Windsor and Obergefell v. Hodges), and a case that struck down a ban on sodomy (Lawrence v. Texas).

"From the rejection of morality legislation in Lawrence, to the expansion of the protections of liberty interests in Obergefell, it is clear that states can no longer use criminal codes to ... punish those who choose to live in consensual but unpopular unions," Brown's filing states. "This case is about the criminalization of consensual relations."

LaBarbera told LifeSiteNews that the move to legalize polygamy is no surprise. "Once the argument for homosexual so-called 'marriage' became 'Love Is Love,' it was only a matter of time before multiple-partner activists would start defending the 'right' to have THEIR [perversion of] 'love' legitimized by state-recognized 'marriage.'"

The Browns, who appear on the television show "Sister Wives," sued the state of Utah over its ban on polygamy, which Brown calls "plural relationships." They argue that the law violates their right to freely practice their religion and their right to equal protection under the law.

Specifically, Brown is challenging the state's assertion that polygamy is harmful to societies that condone it.

Brown argues that the state should not have "the right to impose criminal morality codes on citizens, compelling them to live their lives in accordance with the religious or social values of the majority of citizens."

LaBarbera concluded, "Social conservatives and Christians must work to overturn Obergefell, just like homosexual activists worked to overturn the Supreme Court's Bowers v. Hardwick decision in 1986 that allowed anti-sodomy laws. Otherwise, we are guaranteed to lose more and more freedoms as 'gay' power grows, using legalized 'marriage' as leverage."

Arguments in the Brown polygamy case could take place before the 10th Circuit Court in Denver before the end of the year.

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Sen. McConnell: GOP won’t push Obama on Planned Parenthood defunding

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WASHINGTON, D.C., September 1, 2015 (LifeSiteNews) -- Planned Parenthood won't lose its funding for at least 18 months, says America's top senator.

Speaking on WYMT TV, Senate Majority Leader Mitch McConnell, R-KY, said, "The president’s made it very clear he’s not going to sign any bill that includes defunding of Planned Parenthood, so that’s another issue that awaits a new president, hopefully with a different point of view about Planned Parenthood."

“We just don’t have the votes to get the outcome that we’d like,” he said. “Again, the president has the pen to sign it. If he doesn’t sign it, it doesn’t happen. But, yeah, we voted on that already in the Senate, we’ll vote on it again, but I would remind all of your viewers the way you make a law in this country, the Congress has to pass it and the president has to sign it.”

McConnell's comments came despite pressure from Senators and Representatives alike, as well as pro-life groups, who want Republicans to make defunding a priority.

"If the president of the United States and Harry Reid think it's more important that Planned Parenthood get your tax dollars than to pay our troops, then they are shutting down the government,” Freedom Caucus leader Jim Jordan, R-OH, told CNN last week.

Jordan and others have pushed GOP leaders to attach defunding efforts to must-pass pieces of legislation, such as a highway bill earlier this summer and the upcoming Continuing Resolution to keep the federal government running. GOP leaders have generally opposed this strategy, which has created a schism within the party.

Conversely, Democrats have been largely united. Leaders and rank-and-file members in both parties have generally supported taxpayer funding of the abortion giant, despite the possibility of illegal abortions being done to illegally harvest fetal organs and other body parts.

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