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Think forced abortion doesn’t happen in America? Think again.

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Oct. 28, 2013 (LiveActionNews.org) - Many well-kept secrets are difficult to believe, once revealed. And most Americans would assert that forced abortion does not take place in our nation. Unfortunately, the only true part of that statement is that our laws do not force abortion (unlike China’s One Child Policy). However, many women across our nation are indeed faced with forced abortion.

It’s a reality and a well-kept secret for too many women. Girls are returned to their rapists and to situations of incest because their violators force them to get abortions, and abortion clinics allow it. Boyfriends, husbands, and parents threaten harm and homelessness unless a woman consents to abortion. Abortion doctors force abortions on women even after the women change their minds.

When these stories make the news, Americans feel revolting disgust. But what are we doing to stop forced abortion in our culture? How are we giving women and girls the help they need to resist forced abortion?

Take, for example, that often deliciously hilarious site, Yahoo! Answers. But for all the silly questions posed and all the out-of-place answers given, there are also true cries for help that can be found.

One woman wrote:

My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly two years and I love him so much. Even though we are just “friends” right now we still talk and have that connection. Well, I found out I was pregnant by him… again. I ended my first pregnancy with an abortion but I just can’t go through that again. His mind is made up, he doesn’t want the baby. He told me that I am getting an abortion. To be honest, we are too young to be parents and I’m not quite ready either. His little comments like “You’re not having this baby if I have anything to do with it” kind of scare me. I am willing to have this baby and give it up for adoption to a loving family since we are young. Can he make me get an abortion since he is the father? …

I based the first abortion on my parents and our lifestyle. My mom always tried to portray the “perfect family” image. I did not want to humiliate my dad either, but having an abortion was a difficult decision for me. I am still an emotional wreck for terminating the life of a would be beautiful, intelligent baby.

Another young woman explained her situation:

im 15 weeks pregnant and I want to keep my baby no doubt about it! im 18 years old…Although I got pregnant and im so happy about it so is the father of my baby hes willing to give his arm and leg for this baby and his family is really supportive and willing to help when we need. I knew I was pregnant since I was 6 weeks since then i’ve been to all my prenatal appointments on time I heard my baby’s heartbeat for the first time at 8 weeks and was given an ab scan to determine my baby’s real age. the doctor says my pregnancy is right on track and my baby is developing on time if not faster then expected it moves from time to time and i already received it’s insurance card and my first official sonogram is next week. I am in love with my baby…however my moms side of the family is really strict and my mother likes to throw a lot in my face about money and how she gives me everything and she over reacts to the slightest thing so i kept my pregnancy from her till now and she told me she doesn’t believe in abortion but she is pushing me to get an abortion she scheduled my appointment for tomorrow at 8 and everything i want her to realize that this is my life and i want to live it and i did this to my self i want to be there for my kid i want her to realize she has to let go of me and not baby me anymore she told me if i abort my baby shell support me for as long as i want but i know my mom that’s not the case i want to prove to her i am an adult and i will give my life for my kid but she wont hear it the same way shes trying to be a mother and look out for me im being a mother and looking out for my kid but idk how to tell her this please someone who’s been through this help me out i really don’t want to give my baby up and i don’t want her to hate me either how can i please both sides and also can she force me into an abortion against my will?

There is so much sadness in both of these situations. One of the worst things is that women – especially young women – are in danger of believing that they can be forced to get an abortion by their boyfriends or parents. Thankfully, in both of these Yahoo! threads, multiple people assured these women that no one could force them to get an abortion. One answerer directed the first woman to pregnancy resource centers.

It’s important for pro-lifers to be involved in stopping forced abortion in our own nation. We should get on sites like Yahoo! Answers and direct struggling women to places – like pregnancy resource centers and legal organizations like ADF and Texas Center for Defense of Life – that can provide them with the help they need. We should let them know that they usually can pursue restraining orders against parents or boyfriends or husbands who are trying to force abortion. They can – and often should – pursue legal action.

Of course, women who may be victims of forced abortions aren’t always on Yahoo! Answers. Some have no idea where to go for help. So we need to continue to spread the message everywhere that abortion cannot be forced. We need to let women know that if they are taken to a clinic against their will, they can tell the nurses, the counselors, the doctors – anyone and everyone – that they do not want the abortion and that they are being forced. We need to let them know that they can talk to people standing outside abortion clinics, tell them they do not want an abortion, and ask for help.

Women who do not want an abortion should never be forced to get one. And they must be told that they are not required to submit to anyone who is trying to force an abortion on them. Spread the news that pregnancy centers and legal organizations help women and girls in these situations. And if you are a volunteer at a pregnancy center, an attorney, a pro-life person who stands outside a clinic – or anyone else in a position of opportunity – watch for these women and tell them what their rights really are.

**For a great guide on how to use Yahoo! Answers to share pro-life truth and offer resources to women in need, check out this article by Live Action’s Lucy LeFever.

***To read more about hidden forced abortion in America, read the 21-page report here.

Reprinted with permission from LiveActionNews.org

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INDIANAPOLIS, IN, March 27, 2015 (LifeSiteNews.com) – On Thursday, Indiana became the 20th state to prevent the government from forcing people of faith to violate their religious beliefs in business or the public square.

Gov. Mike Pence signed the Religious Freedom Restoration Act (SB 101) into law, saying the freedom of religion is a preeminent American value.

“The Constitution of the United States and the Indiana Constitution both provide strong recognition of the freedom of religion, but today, many people of faith feel their religious liberty is under attack by government action,” Pence said.

Gov. Pence, a possible dark horse candidate for president in 2016, cited court cases brought by religious organizations and employers, including Catholic universities, against the HHS mandate. “One need look no further than the recent litigation concerning the Affordable Care Act. A private business and our own University of Notre Dame had to file lawsuits challenging provisions that required them to offer insurance coverage in violation of their religious views.”

The new law could also prevent Christian business owners from being compelled to bake a cake or take photographs of a same-sex "marriage" ceremony, if doing so violates their faith. In recent years, business owners have seen an increased level of prosecution for denying such services, despite their religious and moral beliefs.

The state's pro-life organization applauded Pence for his stance. "Indiana's pro-life community is grateful to Gov. Mike Pence for signing the Religious Freedom Restoration Act into law,” said Indiana Right to Life's president and CEO Mike Fichter. “This bill will give pro-lifers a necessary legal recourse if they are pressured to support abortion against their deeply-held religious beliefs.”

“RFRA is an important bill to protect the religious freedom of Hoosiers who believe the right to life comes from God, not government,” he said.

The state RFRA is based on the federal bill introduced by Sen. Chuck Schumer, D-NY, and signed into law by President Bill Clinton in 1993. The Supreme Court cited the federal law when it ruled that Hobby Lobby had the right to refuse to fund abortion-inducing drugs, if doing so violated its owners' sincerely held religious beliefs.

In signing the measure – similar to the one Arizona Gov. Jan Brewer vetoed – Pence and the state of Indiana have faced a torrent of venom from opponents of the bill, who claim it grants a “right to discriminate” and raises the spectre of segregation.

"They've basically said, as long as your religion tells you to, it's OK to discriminate against people," said Sarah Warbelow, legal director of the Human Rights Campaign, a national homosexual pressure group.

The Disciples of Christ, a liberal Protestant denomination based in the state capital, has said it will move its 2017 annual convention if the RFRA became state law. The NCAA warned the bill's adoption “might affect future events” in the Hoosier state.

Pence denied such concerns, saying, "This bill is not about discrimination, and if I thought it legalized discrimination in any way I would've vetoed it."

The bill's supporters say that, under the Obama administration, it is Christians who are most likely to suffer discrimination.

"Originally RFRA laws were intended to protect small religious groups from undue burdens on practicing their faith in public life,” said Mark Tooley, president of the Institute on Religion and Democracy. “It was not imagined there would come a day when laws might seek to jail or financially destroy nuns, rabbis or Christian camp counselors who prefer to abstain from the next wave of sexual and gender experimentation. And there's always a next wave.”

The bill's supporters note that it does not end the government's right to coerce people of faith into violating their conscience in every situation. However, it requires that doing so has to serve a compelling government interest and the government must use the least restrictive means possible. “There will be times when a state or federal government can show it has a compelling reason for burdening religious expression – to ensure public safety, for instance,” said Sarah Torre, an expert at the Heritage Foundation. “But Religious Freedom Restoration Acts set a high bar for the government to meet in order to restrict religious freedom.”

Restricting the ability of government to interfere in people's private decisions, especially their religious decisions, is the very purpose of the Constitution, its supporters say.

"Religious freedom is the cornerstone of all liberty for all people,” Tooley said. “Deny or reduce it, and there are no ultimate limits on the state's power to coerce."

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Porn is transforming our men from protectors into predators. Fight back.

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Since I’ve gotten involved in anti-pornography work, I’ve met countless men who struggle, fight, or have beaten pornography. Each person seems to deal with the guilt and shame that accompanies porn use in a different way—some deny that it’s “all that bad,” others pretend that they could “stop whenever they want,” many insist that “everyone is doing it,” and most, when pressed, admit to a deep sense of self-loathing.

One worry surfaces often in conversation: What do my past or current struggles with pornography say about me as a man? Can I ever move past this and have a meaningful and fulfilling relationship?

I want to address this question just briefly, since I’ve encountered it so many times.

First, however, I’ve written before how I at times dislike the language of “struggling” with pornography or pornography “addiction,” not because they aren’t accurate but because too often they are used as an excuse rather than an explanation. It is true, many do in fact “struggle” with what can legitimately be considered an addiction, but when this language is used to describe an interminable battle with no end (and I’ve met dozens of men for whom this is the case), then I prefer we use terminology like “fighting my porn habit.” A semantic debate, certainly, but one I think is important. We need to stop struggling with porn and start fighting it.

Secondly, pornography does do devastating things to one’s sense of masculinity. We know this. Pornography enslaves men by the millions, perverting their role as protector and defender of the more vulnerable and turning them into sexual cannibals, consuming those they see on-screen to satisfy their sexual appetites.

What often starts as mere curiosity or an accidental encounter can turn into something that invades the mind and twists even the most basic attractions. I’ve met porn users who can’t believe the types of things they want to watch. They haven’t simply been using porn. Porn has actively reshaped them into something they don’t recognize and don’t like. 

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Porn is this generation’s great assault on masculinity and the role of men in society. It is essential that we win this battle for the sake of society’s survival. Contrary to what the gender-bending and family-morphing progressive elites claim, good husbands and good fathers and good church leaders are necessary for a healthy society. But pornography is destroying marriages, creating distant and disconnected fathers, and, metaphoricaclly castrating men, hindering their ability and desire to make a positive difference in the society around us.

So, with this sobering set of facts in mind let’s return to the question: what do pornography struggles, past and present, say about a man?

The proper way to respond is with everything that is good about masculinity. We have to fight pornography as men have fought countless evils throughout the ages. We need to fight pornography to protect women, and wives, and children, and our society at large. This is how pornography threatens society, by castrating men, and turning them from protectors into predators. Rooting out the evil in our own lives allows us to better fulfill the role we are called to perform in the lives of others. Battling our own demons enables us to battle the wider cultural demons. Every day without porn is another bit of virtue built. Virtue is not something you’re born with. Virtues are habits that you build. And one day without porn is the first step towards the virtue of being porn-free.

Many men ask me if men who have had past porn addictions are cut out for being in a relationship or working in the pro-life movement or in other areas where we are called to protect and defend the weak and vulnerable. And the answer to that is an unequivocal yes. Our society needs men who know what it means to fight battles and win. Our society needs men who can say that they fought porn and they beat porn, because their families and their friends were too important to risk. Our society needs men who rose to the challenge that the evils of their generation threw at them, and became better men as the result. And our society needs men who can help their friends and their sons and those around them fight the plague of pornography and free themselves from it, too—and who can understand better and offer encouragement more relevant than someone who has fought and been freed themselves?

So the answer to men is yes. Fight pornography. Beat pornography. And join the ranks of those who support their fellow men and women still fighting. Lend them support and encouragement. We cannot change the fact that porn has left an enormous path of destruction in its wake. But we can change the fact that too many people aren’t fighting it. We can change our own involvement. And we can rise to the challenge and face this threat to masculinity with all that is good about masculinity.

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