July 6, 2021 (LifeSiteNews) — The uncertainty over how Christians can follow the Bible’s directive to love as Christ loved without compromising the truth is creating confusion and chaos in our churches — particularly as we attempt to minister to those struggling with gender identity. In a recent podcast, J. D. Greear, the president of the Southern Baptist Convention said, “My own position is that if a transgender person comes to your church, it is fine to refer to them by their preferred pronoun.”
Many other leaders in the Christian community agree with Greear. But does the desire to build relationships conflict with adherence to truth, or have we created this conflict by elevating someone’s feelings over our commitment to honor God’s standards of right and wrong? How do we follow the directive of Ephesians 4:15 and “speak the truth in love” when someone asks us to use pronouns consistent with their gender identity rather than their birth gender?
The unwavering standard of righteousness
You may be familiar with Jesus’s encounter with the Samaritan woman, recorded in John 4. Normally, no Jewish man would speak to any Samaritan, much less a woman who wasn’t married to the man she lived with. But Jesus had compassion on her and initiated the conversation — not to indulge her fantasies about the acceptability of her lifestyle, but to illuminate her error and draw her toward repentance. He saw her only as a person in need of the forgiveness and hope he alone could provide.
The woman quickly discerned Jesus’ sincere concern for her and interest in her well-being, even though they’d only known each other for a short time. He provided a safe environment for her to process the truth he revealed about her sinful choices and the availability of the Living Water that could set her free.
Jesus also gave her the opportunity to identify her sin. He said, “Go, call your husband and come back.” She then said, “I have no husband.” He countered with the truth: “You are right when you say you have no husband. The fact is, you have had five husbands, and the man you now have is not your husband” (John 4:16–18). He didn’t airbrush the truth; he encouraged her to confront it.
This story illustrates that we can be both loving and truthful. Yes, we love as Jesus loved, but we also speak truth as he spoke it.
Love speaks the truth
Too often, Christians are considered bigoted or unloving if they speak truth about transgenderism. To avoid this characterization, some advise that we practice “pronoun hospitality” — use the pronouns the person prefers. This is a kindness, they say. This is loving as Jesus loved. For example, in my father’s case, I would’ve told him, “I’ll call you Becky and use female pronouns because I want you to know that I love you.” That’s what the people in the church he attended chose to do.
But how does affirming a loved one’s fantasy guide them toward truth?
Kathy Grace Duncan lived eleven years as a man. But one day the pastor of her church asked her, “Who are you? Who are you really?” Kathy says, “When I confessed that I was a woman living as a man, the Holy Spirit blew into me. At that point, I realized I needed to go back to being the woman I needed to be.”
First Corinthians 13:6 reminds us that “love does not delight in evil but rejoices in the truth.” Kathy Grace’s pastor and other church leaders loved her enough to confront the lie she was living. Their truthfulness prompted her to open her heart to the Holy Spirit. Speaking the truth that led Kathy Grace to freedom was much more compassionate than perpetuating the lie that held her captive. Truth illuminated the path to wholeness.
Love lives in truth
Practicing pronoun hospitality may sound loving; however, it suggests that our convictions, untruths, and agreement with a lie don’t matter. Pronoun hospitality forces us to be deceitful — to speak and act in ways that conflict with our convictions. Such hypocrisy puts us in agreement with the Enemy of our souls who delights in the chaos that deceit and delusion create.
In 2019, LifePetitions launched a similar petition on behalf of Jeff Younger (the father) and his son James, asking for support and for the Texas state authorities to intervene in a unbelievable case in which the Dallas courts keep flip-flopping over which parent has parental rights and, ultimately, whether or not James must be forced to live as a girl and suffer the trauma of so-called gender "transitioning," as his mom believes he is a girl.
Incredibly, we now seem to be back at square one.
Jeff Younger currently has a gag order put on him, which prohibits him to speak out in defense of his son. But, because he has recently decided to ignore that order, to save his son from irreversible surgery, this brave Dad now faces possible arrest.
Please SIGN and SHARE this urgent petition which does two things: 1) Supports Jeff Younger (again, the Dad) in his fight to save his son, James, from so-called gender "transitioning;" and, 2) Calls on Texas' Attorney General to intervene in this case and quash the gag order against Mr. Younger.
CLICK HERE to WATCH the latest LifeSite interview with Jeff Younger. Hear about the latest developments with his son, as well as the real dangers of gender reassignment surgery and other “transititioning” methods.
Currently, even though he shares 50/50 parental rights to James, which has allowed him to stop the chemical castration of his son, Jeff’s ex-wife recently sued to have full parental rights and to "give her sole medical and psychological decision making."
Jeff is also being threatened with jail time from the gag order, which he believes was intentionally done to stop him from helping pass legislation in Texas to ban sex-change surgeries for minors.
Jeff says that the gag order "prohibits me from speaking on all manner of political topics. And I’m not even allowed to tell you in that gag order whether my son’s a boy or girl."
But Jeff is speaking out, no matter what, because of the real danger that his son is in if he undergoes "transition" surgery.
Indeed, so-called gender "transitions" present many unsafe effects, some desired, some undesired, though all dangerous for one's physical and mental health.
Puberty-blocking drugs and cross-sex hormones have not been proven safe. For example, the FDA has NOT approved Lupron and GnRH analogues for use in blocking puberty.
Risks associated with these pharmaceuticals include: low bone density, high blood pressure, weight gain, abnormal glucose tolerance, breast cancer, liver disease, thrombosis, and cardiovascular disease.
And, additional risks and potential harms include:
For Males: Stunting of penile and testicular growth, sexual dysfunction, prevention of spermatogenesis, and disruption of normal brain and bone development.
For Females: A menopause-like state, blockade of normal breast development, decreased blood flow to vagina and vulva, sexual dysfunction, thinning of vaginal epithelium, vaginal atrophy, prevention of menses/ovulation, and disruption of normal brain and bone development.
In other words, these medications can sterilize and cause medical harm to vulnerable, confused children.
And, the stunning part about this: studies show that 85% of gender confused children eventually become comfortable with the sex of their bodies.
Please SIGN and SHARE this urgent petition which supports Jeff Younger, a Texas Dad, who is fighting to prevent his son, James, from being "turned into a girl." At the same time, we appeal to Texas State Attorney General, to intervene in this case and quash the gag order against Jeff.
FOR MORE INFORMATION:
'Save James: Father risks arrest to save 9-year-old son from forced gender-transition': https://www.lifesitenews.com/blogs/save-james-father-risks-arrest-to-save-9-year-old-son-from-forced-gender-transition
FOR MORE INFORMATION ON THE DANGERS OF PUSHING GENDER IDEOLOGY ON CHILDREN:
Many eminent psychiatrists are now speaking against the faulty notion that sex is fluid and a matter of choice. In particular, they are concerned about the welfare of children and young people in this regard.
Dr Paul McHugh, former psychiatrist-in-chief at Johns Hopkins University, who has researched the occurrence of gender dysphoria for 40 years, has stated that the notion of gender fluidity "is doing much damage to families, adolescents, and children and should be confronted as an opinion without biological foundation wherever it emerges". [See more below.]
And, the American College of Pediatricians (ACP) is definite about the promotion of transgenderism as being harmful public policy:
"Human sexuality is an objective biological binary trait: 'XY' and 'XX' are genetic markers of health – not genetic markers of a disorder. The norm for human design is to be conceived, either male or female…Conditioning children into believing that a lifetime of chemical and surgical impersonation of the opposite sex is normal and healthful is child abuse. Endorsing gender discordance as normal via public education and legal policies will confuse children and parents…” [Read more below.]
Here is what Dr Paul McHugh said on this topic: https://www.cnsnews.com/blog/michael-w-chapman/johns-hopkins-psychiatrist-transgendered-men-dont-become-women-they-become
This is the ACP statement on Gender Ideology: http://www.acpeds.org/the-college-speaks/position-statements/gender-ideology-harms-children
About the medical risks associated with medical interventions to attempt to change the sex of the body: https://www.thepublicdiscourse.com/2020/01/59422/
About some of the unconscionable practices some medical professionals are engaged in:
Some people have judged me for calling my father Dad when he wanted me to call him Becky. But I have complete peace about that decision. I didn’t call him Dad and use male pronouns out of anger or hurt; I spoke truth because of my love and concern for him and the darkness that surrounded him as he lived out his delusion. He needed Jesus. He needed to become the man God designed him to be. The world and his church affirmed his delusion. My mom, siblings, and I spoke the truth to him in love, and we prayed continually that God would penetrate the delusion and guide Dad into a relationship with the One who loved him most.
Pronoun hospitality is not the answer. Speaking the truth in love and avoiding deceit or hypocrisy is the practice that best reflects the way Jesus interacted with the people he encountered. Let’s follow his model of living and loving in truth.